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New Haleigh Cummings video as interest and coverage diminishes

March 3, 2009

A new video of Haleigh Cummings has been released by her grandmother, Marie Griffis.  It shows Haleigh playing haleigh-cummings-3with her brother, Junior.

Investigators are still following up on what is now more than 2100 tips.  The sheriff’s office has abandoned the ground searches for the little girl, but volunteers are continuing to search around her father’s home.

Haleigh’s family still harbors  hope that she will return to them alive.

“I’m staying here until my baby comes home, I’m not leaving,” said Haleigh’s mother, Crystal Sheffield.

watch the video below:

new video of Haleigh Cummings

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It’s a sort of catch-22 isn’t it?  This family is behaving with dignity (except for the blip with Geraldo, brought on by Geraldo, carried out by Geraldo, and ended by Ron Cummings when he banned him from the premises for trying to sensationalize the story. (which ironically put them squarely front and center for a few days)

It’s admirable  that this family insists this be about Haleigh, and that they will not allow it to become about them.  That’s the way it should be.  All disagreements and innuendos should be set aside for their mutual goal–finding Haleigh.

What is so sad to me is that without the drama of a ‘Casey Anthony style’ case,  the news coverage, with no breaking clues, is dwindling. You can’t really blame the media for that. They can’t continue to  repeat  the same thing day in and day out. There’s only so many ways to say this child is missing and there are no leads.

This is the dilemma that Adji Desir’s family has also faced.  People that attract (and swarm to) cameras— like Geraldo, Nancy Grace, Leonard Padilla, and “PR” people like Todd Black aka Gil Cabot, Michelle Bart, Kidfinder’s, etc. only bring their circus to town if they know they have an audience.  There is no audience if there’s nothing to report–and an audience is key if you want to  attract the above limelight hogs.

Does the circus find more missing children than police investigators?  Of course not.  They probably hinder the police investigation in the long run.  But what they CAN do is keep the story out there in front of the world–and that  attracts a lot of good along with the bad:  high powered attorneys, scientists, legitimate charitable organizations, volunteer groups etc. etc. that a family like Haleigh’s or Adji’s could never afford or attract on their own.   (No, I don’t mean the likes of Jose Baez and his crew when I say good-they’re part of the circus.) Isn’t it a shame that you have to do something so heinous as Casey Anthony did and behave as outrageously as the Anthony family to attract the attention of the world?  Just a sign of the times?

I think I must be becoming a hardcore cynic.  I can remember a time when doing the right thing was duly rewarded–always.  It doesn’t seem that way to me anymore.  In fact, it seems like it is just the opposite. When did the world we live in change so drastically? It’s a mystery to me………..

37 Comments leave one →
  1. niecey456 permalink
    March 3, 2009 11:44 am

    Great Post Mystery!!! I’m still praying for Haleigh every day and constantly looking for new info. Her family is every bit in my prayers as well. I’m still fervently praying for Adji and his family as well. I have learned to pray for the the children, ALL of them everyday. I will never understand all of this as long as I live. God Bless Our Children!!!!

  2. friendlymom permalink
    March 3, 2009 12:10 pm

    HELLO ALL!!!!!!!!!! 🙂 I’m back. lol Mystery, I just finished writing a college paper on this very topic. It is sad times that we now live in. If I sit and dig deep, I would have to say that it started with women entering the work force, and leaving the children for others to rear. Is it wrong that women work, no, I don’t believe so. However, the children tend to be influenced by too many people, where as once, it was mostly the parents and family. We have become so diverse in our country. Is this a bad thing, no, I don’t believe. But, it does make it hard for our youth to grow up and know what to believe and follow. Many things have changed, and the bottom line is, I believe, that with so many changes, diversities, and information, we have lost our ethics along the way. We are forced to accept things that we believe to be wrong, because a frivilous law suit says we must. Most Americans know what they believe to be ethical and moral, but when it becomes known that laws and rights can be bent and skewed, people will; especially when there is money to be made. The truth is, we have allowed these things to happen, because we forgot that the politicians work for us, and must answer to us. We forgot we have voices that are powerful in numbers. We simply stopped being united. This is my opinion, for what it’s worth. I hope everyone is well. I missed you all.

  3. itsamysterytome permalink*
    March 3, 2009 12:57 pm

    Thanks Niecey, I pray for them as well.

    Welcome back friendlymom! We have missed the heck out of you! This subject bothers as well as fascinates me.

    I think you are right when you say it has a lot to do with the breakdown of families and the way our children are raised. It has become, starting with the baby boomers, really unfashionable to have old fashioned values with a strong belief system in which God is the firm base. Because of that, there is unrest everywhere–everyone is looking for something they are never going to find.

    It also has a lot to do with our “instant” society. With the ushering in of television, computers, and the internet, we have become accustomed to instant everything and that includes instant gratification. Nothing is worth waiting for. We don’t wait til we can afford to own homes, buy cars, go on fancy trips or even buy a pair of shoes. Following our examples, our children don’t want to wait either and we, as parents, don’t make them. They want (and get) cars, and cell phones, and a wardrobe fit for a queen. They have sex, and drink, and do drugs, and have babies out of wedlock before they are ready to financially, and more important, emotionally able to take are of them. And then the unthinkable happens and a young mother murders her child…..

  4. niecey456 permalink
    March 3, 2009 1:06 pm

    You ladies have really hit on it. We live in a time in which moral values for many are in the toilet. “If it feels good, do it”, is the montra and has been for some time now. And of course the “Me” syndrome is rampant. If we could only get back to our moral heritage, and seek first the kingdom of God, we would be in a lot better shape.
    Friendly Mom, I’m so glad you are back.

  5. itsamysterytome permalink*
    March 3, 2009 1:43 pm

    Unfortunately, I don’t see that happening anytime soon, Niecey. The direction our country, and the world for that matter, is currently headed in precludes that from happening.

  6. March 3, 2009 1:48 pm

    all i can says is AMEN SISTERS!!!!!!!!!!! i feel everything you all wrote about, but could not put it as well, as you all did, in writing!!!!! so well said! God Bless you all! there are so many missing kids, it just makes you sick!!! i volunteer at our local childrens hospital so many sad stories. and the missing kids!!!could not even begin to understand the heart ache most parents would feel at a child missing. there is a girl 14, missing in CA, just disappeared, not far from the school and then Haleigh!! i too pray every day for them all!!!!! have a good day!

  7. MAND permalink
    March 3, 2009 3:49 pm

    Good Afternoon Ladies..and welcome back Friendly Mom I have been asking about you..missed you..
    Well ladies I think you have said it all and said it so very well.
    We live in some very trying times..we have lost much of what we once were somewhere along life’s way..morals are now made fun of..everything..and ..anything goes..just look at some of the TV Shows and more are released everyday..reality shows? They are soft porn..and some border on the hard core stuff..but this is what our young girls find to be the in for young men? Well the female has become a sex object.made for pleasure..and called every dirty name in the book and some made up..but no offense is taken by the females..That is just a very small part of it..sad to say it will not be getting better anytime soon if ever.

  8. March 3, 2009 4:07 pm

    I am going to say what i said from day one after listening to the 911 call where Ronald Cummings was so hardcore rude to the operator, he was saying F this and calling the operator a f’n mother—–r. Was saying in the background they were not even going to come out, they are wasting my time and i have more important people to call. Now who more important would you call when you say your child is missing? Also, why would you think that law enforcement was not coming out as the 911 operator said they were on their way. I tell you why? this hoodlum Dad and i use Dad loosely, probably was thinking they do not believe my story. I think he and only he,knows what happened to Haleigh and he is in it up to his eyebrows. He has either set it up for someone else to take this child and keep her thinking they can get the reward money and donations and paid for tv interviews, and they are going to bring Haleigh back at some point when they rake in enough money, or this hoodlum Dad has killed her. I first thought he had briefed Misty the girlfriend and made her go along with this plan but now i believe Misty is in the dark and has no idea what he has done. Nothing adds up with this Dad. If he had no idea what happened to his daughter then why from the get go was he spouting on the 911 call if i find out who has my daughter before you get here, i am going to kill him? then the fake whining type crying he does too. One only other scenario is this hoodlum Dad has ticked off some wrong druggie guy/guys or whatever and he/they took Haleigh for revenge. one way or the other my insight says this Dad is behind it all, or the cause one. some may say why do i call the Dad a hoodlum, my answer, when you talk in this mannner on a 911 call to the operator i call that a Hoodlum.

  9. March 3, 2009 4:08 pm

    Hi Mystery and everyone here. see i had to rant. lol

  10. March 3, 2009 4:16 pm

    Since i am ranting i am adding he is a pig to the list too. I have heard what Ronald Cummings calls Misty. He has zero respect for women. Misty needs to get far, far away from him , he is bad news~~

  11. nellfire permalink
    March 3, 2009 4:36 pm

    The dad was at work with an alibi. He would have had to have set up something through another person. Does he look that clever to you? I agree he may be less than charismatic, and he definitely has zero respect for women, but I don’t think he had his daughter kidnapped. Drug deal gone bad…maybe? The wife says they did drugs, he says they didn’t. It’s easy to pull focus from this poor little girl with all the backbiting going on thanks to Geraldo.

  12. March 3, 2009 5:07 pm

    Nellfire, How much brains would it require to set up another person to take your child? Any idiot could come up with that. I saw nothing geraldo did but ask Ronald Cummings some good questions. Geraldo did not accuse him of doing anything, Cummings was given air time to refute what was being said about him. It is very clear to me that his ex-wife has a hard time when saying anything bad against him, and that is i feel because she knows what he is capable off. Ronald looked stoned to me when he was talking with Geraldo.

  13. March 3, 2009 5:13 pm

    nellfire, in my opinion the back biting you speak of has nothing to do with Geraldo, it is due to the two families not getting along in this case. If anything Geraldo put a lot of focus back on to Haleigh as to getting somewhere possibly with what happened to her. I am not a big Geraldo fan but this time i think he did well.

  14. friendlymom permalink
    March 3, 2009 6:45 pm

    Mystery, I missed all of you as well. I took a break, as I have been feeling a bit blue. Hormones, or lack of, 🙂 I am really having a time of it. I have tried the natural remedies that the doctor suggested, but they do not seem to work, and I am not a candidate for hormone therapy, due to breast cancer in the family. So, I am suffering it out. It usually passes eventually. It is hard for people to even “try” to understand, because I am only 41 and done with menopause, but I am.
    So anyway, I am trying to get back on track, and I thought talking with you fine ladies just might be the medicine I need. I welcome a good laugh. 🙂

  15. Kari permalink
    March 3, 2009 10:00 pm

    Interesting topic, Mystery. The question I’m hearing is ‘Why does a case need to be sensational to hold our attention?’ The answer is just what you said yourself, that it takes no time at all, and little attention, to write, or read, “Child still missing, no leads.”

    There could be, and probably is, a process of triage for crime reporters. Determine which cases merit attention, which ones might be helped, which ones will interest the public… The Caylee/Casey Anthony case has received more than it’s ‘fair share’ of media attention for a number of reasons. Many people have said it is because the pictures of Caylee are so charming that thousands of people fell in love with that little girl and wanted very badly for her to be found.

    That is a lovely thought, but the advent of the Haleigh Cummings case has illustrated the fallacy of that theory. Haleigh is certainly every bit as cute and charming (and white) as Caylee, but media attention is already waning. Why? Is it because the family is not of the same class economically? Is the media prejudiced against poor(er) folks? To some extent, yes, I think it is, and also it has to be. Wealthy people are powerful people, and therefore more interesting.

    Poor people, and let me state that I fall into that category, having less than 100.00 in savings and living paycheck to paycheck, poor people like myself are poor for a reason. Some of us drink too much, use drugs, or have some form of mental illness. (I don’t drink or use drugs) Some of us have family members with addictions or mental health problems. All those things tend to cause other problems as well, and the public, the media, are not surprised when tragedies occur in poor neighborhoods…

    Conversely, all of us poor(er) folks, and even most of the middle class, fondly imagine that money would solve many of our problems and make our lives easier, calmer, more enjoyable. So that when some tragedy does occur to the wealthy and prominent citizen, we are surprised and interested…

    The apparent middle-class respectability and modest prosperity of the Anthonys is one reason for the media/public attention.
    The other reason is Casey. Her outrageous lies, her shocking (under the circumstances) behavior has kept us guessing, second-guessing, ranting, and raving for many months, and we’re not done yet!

  16. itsamysterytome permalink*
    March 3, 2009 10:20 pm


    At least you are doing something. Volunteering at a children’s hospital touches lives and makes a difference. Bravo to you.


    I agree with you. I believe it is not reversible at this point and is bound to get worse and television along with parents lack of supervision when it comes to what their kids are watching are major culprits.

  17. itsamysterytome permalink*
    March 3, 2009 10:37 pm

    Hi Knight Owl!

    The jury is still out for me when it comes to Ron Cummings. I agree that he is a scumbag in his treatment of women as we all heard on the 911 tape. His girlfriend is just a child herself, and I would imagine he controls her completely.

    I personally don’t think he is responsible for his daughter’s death at this point. He has an alibi and by all the accounts I’ve read he loved his daughter. I haven’t ruled out that someone may have taken Haleigh because of something Ron did or didn’t do. I also think Ron’s girlfriend definitely knows more than she has revealed. I hadn’t thought of a scenario where he might have faked the abduction himself to get the reward money. If he did that wouldn’t there have been a ransom note by now?

    I also haven’t ruled out Haleigh’s mother and her boyfriend. On one of the shows–can’t remember whether it was JVM, Mike G, or NG, it was stated that Haleigh’s mother was behind $4000 in child support payments to Ron and that he had recently filed to take her to court. The papers were served the day before Haleigh was abducted.

  18. itsamysterytome permalink*
    March 3, 2009 10:43 pm

    it is easy to lose focus of the missing child. I think it was lost completely in the Casey Anthony case.

    Sorry to hear you’re having trouble. I’m going the “cold turkey” route myself but have been lucky to only having hot flashes. Hope you feel 100% soon. Check out the “Bad Bandits” tab at the top of this blog–It’ll make you laugh for sure!

  19. itsamysterytome permalink*
    March 3, 2009 11:02 pm

    Hi Kari–

    Nice to hear from you. It’s been a while!

    You’ve made some very good points. I agree that too many of the missing children that have made it to “celebrity” status are middle to upper class, white, and female to say it’s just coincidence. I think what you said at the end is actually the crux of it. “….Casey. Her outrageous lies, her shocking (under the circumstances) behavior has kept us guessing, second-guessing, ranting, and raving for many months, and we’re not done yet!” And let us not forget Casey’s family. They have also added fuel to the fire by their actions.

    If you use Caylee’s story as a gage, you would almost have to conclude that the main ingredient is the entertainment factor, pure and simple. Whoever or whatever that can not only grab our attention but keep us coming back for more.

  20. Boston permalink
    March 4, 2009 8:51 am

    The Casey/Caylee case was never about a missing or abandoned child. When Mrs Anthony called the police and reported Caylee missing and after the police interrogated Casey she was arrested for neglect of a child. This case was never, ever about a lost or abandoned child. What captured the American people and the world press was the fact that the mother admitted she never called the police and that her child was missing for 31 days. She was arrested for neglect of a child with a 500K Bond because she was dangerous. They needed to keep her confined. On October 11, 2008 she was indicted on Felony Murder. Her last day of freedom has come and gone. Part of what has captured everyone’s interest is her detachment from the crime and her apparent lack of shame and guilt.

    When I look at the Cummings family all I can think of is METH. Could it be ‘all in the family”? It is part of the human condition to be interested and concerned about what goes on and what the possible outcomes could be. A gun in the culvert, the father who doesn’t go out to search unless volunteers show up. Someone who drinks beer at the “Command Center”. It all strikes me as sad,sad, sad but that doesn’t make me any less interested. With that sad southern accent void of any emotion he says, “Come on home baby”. “We miss ya baby”. “You know I love ya baby”. Who are these people?

    I don’t think people care how rich or how poor these people are. Where they live or what they eat. People write about this case, follow this case and anticipate an upcoming trial(s) because they want to see justice for the victim. We do not have to give Casey Anthony the presumption of innocence. We can access, assess and evaluate the evidence because we are honestly heartbroken that her mother couldn’t love her.

    Kari-News organizations do not triage the news.

  21. March 4, 2009 12:35 pm

    Hi Mystery, i had not heard that the birth Mom owed child support. that is interesting. I believe that Ronald did abuse Haleigh as he said when Geraldo was interviewing him that he did not back hand Haleigh like he was being accused of but he has spanked her on her behind like social services told him was the right way to discipline your child. why was social services in need of having that kind of conversation with him i say? What i mean doesn’t have anything to do with a ransom note. I mean i believe Ron has another person working with him to get Haleigh and hide her long enough for them to hopefully rake in some money, then suddenly Haleigh will show back up somewhere long after the case has died down. I Was thinking that scenario as the pink shirt misty said she was wearing when she put her to bed ended up being found by misty at the back door in the laundry pile. sounds to me like Ronald or someone changed his daughter in to some other clothes first. I also now wonder if Ronald did not accidentally kill Haleigh through an anger rage perhaps since he was being told he was going to jail if Haleigh keeps missing school. If three cadaver dogs hit on that dumpster then someone was dead in that dumpster and then removed before it was searched by police after the dogs hit. I am now leaning on she was killed by accident or whatever means by Ronald and thrown in the dumpster and removed to another place. Ronald taking Crystal exwife to court for child support money i doubt would get him the money as i doubt she has it to give, so would only get jail time. You cannot get blood out of a turnip you know.

  22. Kari permalink
    March 4, 2009 12:35 pm

    Boston–Says you.

  23. Boston permalink
    March 4, 2009 1:41 pm

    What you are saying is that if Casey Anthony was ugly and poor no one would care about the fact that her daughter was abandoned or possibly killed. I try never to underestimate the integrity of the press until they have earned it. In this case the reporting, legal manuverings and the behavior of all the participants is under the watchful eye of the media-which includes all local, cable and print outlets who have been reporting on this case from day one.

    There has never been a child abduction case which resulted in murder that has not been covered extensively either locally or nationally. If it wasn’t for the medida we would never be updated on the whereabout of Madeline McCann.

    To say that the media triages news and to insinuate that they have some control over what stories they will tell and those they wont is just not true. We have people like John Walsh, Mr. Smart, Mr Klass and Mr Lungsford and many others who have brought awareness of child abduction, neglect, abandonment and murder to the forefront of the American consciousness. What would happen if someone decided that crimes which happen to white, beautiful and modestly prosperous individuals was all that would be investigated. Would that boat ever float?

    The press wants the freedom to print the truth, all the lies and report on crime and corruption no matter where they find it. As a reader and a viewer do we want someone else editing and deciding on what we need to hear and when we need to read it? Not all stories get adequate press but if a child dies the story is told in a much more threatening venue.

    We are no longer looking for Caylee Anthony. We are looking for Haleigh Cummings. If she is not found today or tomorrow stories about her will fade away but that doesn;t mean that someone at the Orlando Sentinel, TV, etc. are not on it every day asking for updates.

    Do you now why we often call the flu by a particular country? Example: Spanish.

  24. pak31 permalink
    March 5, 2009 9:30 am

    Wow, intense blog. It is a very good subject Mystery, it’s a very serious issue and should be discussed. I am 41 years old and I can tell you that in my lifetime I have seen the value system in our country go down the tubes. I cherish the time when I was a young girl, growing up in the 70’s, crime was around and bad things happened but people were simple, they were traditional. Now with technology and people wanting more and more “freedom” in just about everything, it has ruined a lot of ways we look at things. When I was a kid t.v. cared about what children might see and kept things under wraps, now they say it’s up to the parents to control what their kids see. While that is true, you can’t control all of it. I think the media is a lot to blame. They have pushed the envelope in a lot of areas. Technology is faster, no one wants to take their time, it’s all about rushing here and there. Marriage vows don’t seem to be taken seriously at all by many, too many single parent households. No matter how much a man or woman says they can handle it, children thrive in a loving home with both parents. Not that it’s wrong to have a broken marriage, but I am just saying it seems as if a lot of people who could succeed don’t try harder. This results in so many broken homes and like everything else, the most vulnerable, the children are the ones who really suffer. I don’t want to keep going here cause I could go on and on. I am not dissing anyone, not everything works out as planned I am just trying to get the point across that as a country with strong family values, that has diminished a lot over the years.

  25. pak31 permalink
    March 5, 2009 9:35 am

    Knight Owl, at first I was a little shocked at your comment but then I will admit that you really made me think about all of this. I tend to agree, you don’t want to be judgmental but when you just look at the facts that you know and see, it does seem odd. The mistreatment of women, the lifestyle, it makes you wonder if there is more than meets the eye. I was shocked that the dad was rude to the 911 operator, I didn’t know if it was his panic or if he is just like that. For him to call his girlfriend a name is basically an insult to himself, I mean what is he doing with her then? Why would he leave his children with her then? I admit, when I saw the mother, her behavior bothered me, she did cry but she just acts strange to me and that coupled with the fact that she owes him money and the two didn’t get along that great, it makes you wonder. I guess I don’t have enough info yet to make a real honest decision here. This whole situation seems strange to me.

  26. pak31 permalink
    March 5, 2009 9:44 am

    Boston, if I am understanding you correctly then I agree with you. Some people may base this on wealth, or lack of it. But, I don’t think I have ever once, honest to God, ever even considered the monetary side of the Anthony case. Plus, according to reports they are broke, so to speak, so they aren’t that well off. In the beginning it WAS the fact that a cute little girl was missing after not being reported missing for a month. I think it was that and Casey that captivated the audience. I will admit, when you hear that Haleigh was kidnapped from her trailer park home, I am sure a lot of people hear that and aren’t surprised because of the stereotypes put on people who live in trailer parks. So there is some truth to the lower class getting less attention BUT, I think this is not as sensational because the drama isn’t there as much plus, we are exhausted from the last case with Caylee. It was in our faces 24/7, now we are going thru it all over again. I do notice a very big lack of emotion in all of the voices of the family, they are saying the right things compared to the Anthonys but they aren’t saying it with much emotion. I could be way off and totally wrong but that is kind of how I feel in a nutshell.

  27. itsamysterytome permalink*
    March 5, 2009 10:33 am

    Hi Boston

    Nice to see you!

    In your first post, I agree on some points and disagree on others. I agree that what has held the attention of the public is Casey Anthony (and also the antics of her family, her attorney, and the strange group of people that have attached themselves to the Anthonys). We tune in to see what new crazy thing has happened.

    You appear to contradict yourself when you said,

    “…this Casey/Caylee case was never about a missing or abandoned child.”


    “…A gun in the culvert, the father who doesn’t go out to search unless volunteers show up. Someone who drinks beer at the “Command Center. It all strikes me as sad,sad, sad but that doesn’t make me any less interested.”

    Then at the end of the post you said,

    “People write about this case, follow this case and anticipate an upcoming trial(s) because they want to see justice for the victim.”

    BUT, it’s really not a contradiction, because what has kept people interested in this case is BOTH the nuttiness of Casey and Crew, and the eccentricities and concern about drug use in the Cummings family and also the need to see justice for these innocent little girls who, by the luck of the draw, were born into these families.

    I disagree with you on your assessment of the media. I agree all news is reported, but there is a gage, (not a conscious one perhaps but still a meter) that decides whether or not news remains news. Sensationalism sells, mundane does not. JMO

  28. itsamysterytome permalink*
    March 5, 2009 10:38 am

    Hi Knight Owl!

    Hopefully someone will “break” and tell what they know. If Ron, or Misty, or Crystal did anything, I think there is someone that knows the truth and will eventually spill their guts. If Ron did something, Misty will definitely break. I still don’t personally have a gut feeling about any of the family–I would like to know if they ever found the, as far as I know, missing pedophile and also what’s been discovered about Misty’s cousin that was “visiting” at the time and who she said molested her as a kid.

  29. MAND permalink
    March 5, 2009 11:28 am

    Hi Mystery..I heard they are still looking for the pedophile and that is odd that he goes missing at the same time as Haleigh..the cousin I thought was questioned and was more or less cleared?
    As for the father’s demeanor with the 911 operator..this is how he speaks..the language..and he was very distraught..I don’t think the father did anything to Haleigh..however I do think Misty knows or suspects something or someone.

  30. itsamysterytome permalink*
    March 5, 2009 11:30 am

    pak31- Very well said. I agree with every point.

    All parents are working harder and harder to just make ends meet. You are right that single family homes are not the best way to raise children and our “I want it now” mentality isn’t conducive to people staying together and working things out when it gets tough.

    The television has become the babysitter for exhausted moms (mainly) and dads that barely have the energy to hold it all together. Somewhere along the line, the “powers that be” whether it was network execs, program directors,
    or network owners, decided, “Hey! We can manipulate and indoctrinate whole generations of children into our way of thinking.” Captain Kangaroo and Mr. Green Jeans became Teletubbies, Sponge Bob Square Pants, etc.–shows with hidden agendas. That would be okay if we ALL agreed with the agenda, but we don’t. “Their way of thinking” isn’t necessarily “our” way of thinking. The problem is that it’s just plain easier to let the television entertain our kids.

    Our children are not being taught traditional morals or the difference between right and wrong or compassion for their fellow man–they are being taught “If it feels good just do it.” “If you don’t wanna do something–don’t!” “If you want it take it.” “Don’t judge anyone or anything they do.” And that’s how you end up with a Casey Anthony–a lot of Casey Anthony’s.

    To say it’s no one’s fault that she is like she is, is just passing the buck. Genetics may play some part, but not all. It’s our entire society’s fault–and that includes the parents. We don’t want to hear that because it makes us, as parents, feel guilty, but it’s as true as the nose on your face. We mold our children into the people they become, and if we don’t take that responsibility, someone else will.

    Through television and (here’s another topic for ya) the chemicals in our “instant” foods and the growth hormones in a dairy industry trying to keep up with demand, our kids are 1) maturing too fast physically, and 2) are exhibiting a host of designer “disorders” that are creating learning and social problems in epidemic numbers. (Who had Attention Deficit Disorder when we went to school? If you had a problem behaving, you were paddled and got another paddling when you got home. End of behavior problem.)

    Sorry, this was so long. I should probably have written a post just about this! You are right. It’s a subject that should be addressed in more depth.

  31. itsamysterytome permalink*
    March 5, 2009 11:36 am


    You nailed what I haven’t been able to put my finger on with the Cumming’s case. They are saying all the right things, but with a strange detachment. Very odd.

  32. itsamysterytome permalink*
    March 5, 2009 11:44 am


    Is that right about the cousin? I didn’t know they had completely cleared him.

    I agree with you that this is how Ron Cumming speaks and he was very distraught on the 911 call. But, if that’s just how he talks then we could probably conclude he regularly mentally abuses his girlfriend by calling her names. I think there are a lot of men out there doing that and the women don’t feel it’s abuse because they aren’t getting pounded on.

    I know Knight Owl is convinced that he had something to do with Haleigh’s disappearance, and she has a very compelling argument, but the jury is still out for me. I hope more information is forthcoming soon.

  33. Boston permalink
    March 5, 2009 12:34 pm

    Mystery-People want to blame the media for everything. Why? Because I think it is convenient. My comments were directed at kari’s post and that “rich people are more interesting” or something to that effect.

    The notion that somehow when crime visits the rich it’s a more interesting story. The media seeks revenues and ratings wherever they can find them. The media is a business and like it or not the public plays a dominant role is deciding what crimes get the most press. Sex, drugs and family turmoil get high ratings. Is the media the one who kills a story? I don’t think so. I hear so often on blogs that people don’t want to hear about what goes on at Trailer Parks. I don’t happen to think that way. I am interested in the story, I want to find out what is happening and all I can rely on is the media to tell me. If people say they are not interested than the story goes away. Both these stories are profound in their similarities. Children vanish. We found one and now we are looking for another. I for one want to know what happened? Why do people act the way they do? I am interested in this story. This is story about a little girl who has literally vanished. If it is not covered it’s because no one wants to read about it or hear about it.

    Shooting the messanger is not quite right in my mind. They are not right all of the time but they have jouornalistic values and standards that I for one will not diminish as long as they are not lying to me through their teeth.

    I really appauld the efforts of the Florida press and cable outlets. They have done an outstanding job.

    This topic Mystery is such an interesting one and we should definetly come back and revisit this discussion again in the future.

    Pak31-you opened a good can of worms and I hope that Mand, Bees and others join in on a most important subject! What happened to the family???????

    The case of Caylee Anthony was never about a missing or abandoned child. The medical examiner stated that the manner of death was a homicide. We knew on day one, “the car smells like a dead body was in the damn car”. If this didn’t spark my interest I don;t know what did!! When Haleigh went missing all I could think of was METH. They were so young yet looked so old or older. Am a interested because of the sheer sensationalism of it-I guess I am. But do you really think the media had to sensationalize anything? The anthony’s were in full command of that department.

    Mystery I wrote too too too long a post. Don’t even think of respoonding. I will go now and see if you have posted the new docs.

  34. Rrainne permalink
    March 5, 2009 1:29 pm

    Please continue making noise about this missing child, Haleigh. Spread the word for *all* the missing children we know of.
    When I read that this case is losing the interest of the public because of the family’s ‘class’, … i’m rather disgusted.
    What’s the difference what class they are? Do we really need for the family to be as chaotic and dysfunctional as the Anthony’s in order to keep the story alive? ….Maybe so. And I understand the media’s position. But I still say lets all keep making noise for little Haleigh, as well as any other children we know of.
    These children are counting on us to do so. I hope and pray we hear some good news soon.

  35. itsamysterytome permalink*
    March 5, 2009 10:01 pm


    I don’t believe the public is losing interest because of the family’s socio/economic status. I think interest has started to wane because there is no news period. Today Ron Cummings made the news because he got a tattoo with Haleigh’s picture on it. Did he do that because he felt like it or because he knew it would keep Haleigh in the news today? I don’t know. But, I agree with you, let’s keep “making noise for little Haleigh” and other missing children.

  36. Boston permalink
    March 6, 2009 9:29 am

    It’s odd but when a family doesn’t lawyer up it might be because it’s someone in the family. I feel sorry for this darling little girl. I also feel so sorry for this poor family who has to live in tents. Octomoron gets a porn video deal, a new house, Angels in Waiting to the tune of 135K a month and this child’s family gets nothing. They need money and not once have we been told where to send a cheque. What could they possibly be living on?

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