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Are George and Cindy Anthony poster children for what NOT to do if your child goes missing?

July 23, 2009

Amy Edwards wrote another article today about missing children, this time with guidelines for what to do if you find yourself in this nightmare situation.  She quotes Nancy McBride, the national safety director for the National Center for Missing and Exploited Children,  Drew Kesse, whose daughter JenniferKesse disappeared from her Orlando condo in January 2006, and Mark Lunsford, who’s daughter was taken from their home and murdered by a neighbor.  (notably absent is  the advice of Cindy Anthony and Kid Finders.  You’ll get a clue why as you read the do’s and don’ts of  how to deal with this horrific scenario)

#1 thing to do, call police IMMEDIATELY because time is absolutely critical.  According to McBride, “The sooner the parent or guardian responds, the better.”

After notifying the police, Drew Keese suggested heading to the streets.  “That day, within three hours of getting to Orlando, we were standing on the corners with fliers.”  He also said you should notify all media outlets. “Start getting that face and that name out.  If you do have a family member strong enough, have that family member with police to do media interviews.”  Kesse said to be upfront and honest with LE, and make sure they are following up on all leads.

Mark Lunsford suggested distributing fliers, talking to the media and letting LE do their job.  “I spent three days handing out fliers by myself. You have to get out and do something,” he said.

Both men said to be wary of people or organizations that offer to help because their intentions may not be good.   There will always be people trying to prey on you.
Kesse and Lunsford both said to be prepared for people or groups who offer to help but whose intentions are less than pure.

Mark Lunsford said that those that offered to help find his daughter were only interested in using the situation for fame or profit.  “Really, all they wanted was exposure. They never did anything to help. It’s just so disturbing when I look back on it,” he said.  He suggested doing your homework on anyone that might approach you to make sure they are on the up and up.

you can read Amy Edwards article below: LINK

George and Cindy on Oprah

I don’t know about you, but IMO  if you compared what they did and are doing to the suggestions in this article, the Anthony’s seem to be poster children for what NOT TO DO if your child is missing! It’s too bad they didn’t have the guiding hands of people like Mark Lunsford and Drew Kesse in the beginning.

18 Comments leave one →
  1. laura permalink
    July 23, 2009 8:16 am

    I think it is really sad in your most stressful and difficult time people are preying on you! Maybe someone should be looking into those kind of organizations and put a stop to them. No one needs that when they have a child missing! It would be like being violated twice. Hi mystery I hope you are well!

  2. Spacely permalink
    July 23, 2009 8:22 am

    Cindy and George did have good people around them that tried to help them navigate through these leeches that attach themselves to the suffering.

    I don’t think you can find a much better guy than Tim Miller. He tried to talk sense to Cindy, but she wouldn’t have it. Tim knew in these situations that you have to search for the child both alive and deceased and Cindy used that as a reason to eject him from the search. Cindy knew Caylee was dead and that Casey is responsible and she needed some way to stop the search for a dead Caylee because that was the final nail in Casey’s legal coffin.

    Cindy and George both chose deception and deceit over honesty and truth. Once they did so, no reputable organization was willing to work with them.

  3. azrenee permalink
    July 23, 2009 8:34 am

    Hi, just wanted to mention, I believe Mark Nejame had the resources and crdibility to help them, Walsh was willing to help until the ridiculous lying was exposed. The truth is they didnt need help, just a baseball bat to encourage their entitled lying narcissistic daughter to tell the truth.

  4. azrenee permalink
    July 23, 2009 8:36 am

    PS Mystery I love your blog, I read it most every day–Thanks for all your hard work and thoughtful blogs!!

  5. niecey456 permalink
    July 23, 2009 10:06 am

    Thanks For Bringing That To Us Mystery! I’m glad she did the follow up. I think between the 2 articles, it leaves it up to the readers to form an opinion. I do think that the A’s handled it wrong, but they got tangled up with the wrong people to start with. I think that article shows that those people (less than honorable charities) come out like a pack of wolves trying to devour the prey. It’s sad that that happens. I do think the A’s shunned the right people that tried to help them, but I do think they had the devil, himself (money grubbers) whispering in their ears, telling them what they wanted to hear. They chose the wrong path. JMO.

  6. itsamysterytome permalink*
    July 23, 2009 10:08 am

    Hi laura! Nice to see ya! I guess I live in a sheltered world, because I can’t understand what would motivate people to prey on and profit by other people’s tragedy.

  7. itsamysterytome permalink*
    July 23, 2009 10:10 am


    I imagine the Anthonys were inundated with people wanting to help and use them. It says volumes that they chose Dennis and Sherri Milstead to be their mentors.

  8. itsamysterytome permalink*
    July 23, 2009 10:12 am


    You are right–except they used the baseball bat to beat everyone around them BUT their sorry excuse for a daughter.

    Thanks, for your kind words! I appreciate them and you very much!

  9. itsamysterytome permalink*
    July 23, 2009 10:15 am


    I agree. They had the good, the bad, and the ugly converging on them. We all know what they chose and why. It’s too bad.

  10. MAND permalink
    July 23, 2009 12:24 pm

    This article makes more sense than Ms. Edwards last one.

    I believe G&C have shown the world what not to do if a child goes missing…but then Caylee was never a missing child!!

    G&C are the same kind of people now that they were before this ever happened…..George was looking for an easy way to make money then and when the Milsteads and Baez came along and showed them how to use their case for money they didn’t hesitate they jumped at the chance.
    They both knew Caylee was dead and both knew KC was at fault…LE was not who they wanted to talk to nor did they seek or want their help…it was all about the money!!! JMO

  11. Daisey1 permalink
    July 23, 2009 12:49 pm

    I feel sure that the A.s/Milsteads have plans for books, television, and movie deals in the works. It’s just a matter of time. I think the Milsteads should be held accountable for their sleazy actions. How much lower can they go? Heaven knows they are not helping Caysy…I’m surprised that A. Lyons hasn’t advised them to KEEP QUIET. I believe that the money really is “drying up” and they are getting desperate. I’m sure that they will come up with some new scheme soon. The Milsteds seem to have a whole “bag of tricks” that they use.


  12. itsamysterytome permalink*
    July 23, 2009 1:02 pm


    I agree with you. My grandmother used to say to me,

    “You are the company you keep.” It used to irritate me when she said it, but it’s been my experience that the old adage has proven true every time…

  13. itsamysterytome permalink*
    July 23, 2009 1:04 pm


    I think Lyon probably has come up against the same brick wall everyone else that has tried to control this situation has faced, and that brick wall is Cindy! No one tells her what to do. “Not nobody, not no how!”

  14. Spacely permalink
    July 23, 2009 1:05 pm

    I completely agree that George and Cindy are now doing their thing totally for money.

    But, in the beginning, their motives were far more sinister.

    If you really look closely at George’s actions and stories, nothing matches up until you realize George thought he was personally going to get into a lot of trouble about something and purposely threw Casey under the bus to divert attention away from himself. This has always made me wonder exactly what George really knows.

    If you go all the way back to the 911 call, you can hear Cindy wailing to George that they have lost Caylee, but you don’t hear much reaction from George at all. At first, I chalked that up to shock, but his later statements force me believe he already knew she was gone.

    When the cops arrived, George along with the rest of the family went along with Casey’s lie that the last time any of them saw Caylee was June 9, 2008. This was a complete and utter lie. I have addressed this point on other boards and the general agreement is that George, Cindy, and Lee went along with the date that Casey supplied to the police because of the stress and shock of the moment. In my opinion, this is not reasonable. Cindy is a control freak. June 9 is the first day Casey spent away from the house after a fight with Cindy. She was gone for a week and brought Caylee back to the house on June 15, when Cindy took Caylee to see her father in the nursing home. Cindy did not see Caylee again. Does anyone seriously believe that Cindy was not aware of the last time she saw Caylee? You know as well as I do that she called Casey incessantly wanting to talk to Caylee, so you know she thought about the last time she was with Caylee every single day. And you also know she must have been driving George batty raving on and on about it everyday. Even her co-workers knew every detail of the events of that month.

    So, why the lie about June 9th? I believe they were hoping someone, anyone, would come forward and say ‘I saw Caylee after the 9th’ so they could all point at that individual and say ‘That’s the culprit, that’s the one, arrest him’. Then the famous Father’s Day video surfaced and the plan failed.

    Then, George tells the police that the last time he saw Caylee was the morning of June 16. Another lie, but not one that has been publicy denounced yet. Caylee was dead by the morning of the 16th. Casey killed her in her car sometime the night of the 15th after another major fight with Cindy. So, why does George lie about this?

    George proceeded to lie about other details of the events of June in an attempt to cover up his money losses by gambling or internet fraud or whatever.

    George also told a story about Casey not letting him into the trunk of her car and how she rushed past him to open it and retrieve a tool he needed. But he never mentions the smell. This event happened sometime in the middle of June, after Caylee was dead and dumped, but as we all know, the smell lingered long after the car was retrieved from the tow yard. George testified that the smell was so strong, he almost could not drive the car home. Yet he stood right next to the open trunk and never noticed any smell… because that story is also a lie… designed to clear him of any involvement and push it all onto Casey… before Cindy made it clear to him he either get with the save Casey program or find himself on the street.

    George is the worst of the bunch because he seems so likable, but every single thing he says is a lie.

  15. mikka permalink
    July 23, 2009 1:29 pm

    i feel it in my gut,the anthonys when have no money no more,she will be back soon on tv shows!she live from caylees blood money,shame on them!

  16. itsamysterytome permalink*
    July 23, 2009 3:24 pm


    The June 9th thing has always bothered me. Casey said from the beginning it had been 31 days since she saw her daughter. That definitely did not coincide with the June 9th date. I agree with you that there is no way in hell that Cindy didn’t know that the last day she saw Caylee was on Father’s Day. George’s description of what Caylee and Casey had on the morning of the 16th has always bothered me as well.

    I believe LE was very much aware that George knows more than he is saying. They said as much in the intereview with him where George said something to the effect that he knows what he knows, and one of the officer’s said, “and you know a lot, don’t you, George.” (paraphrasing)

  17. itsamysterytome permalink*
    July 23, 2009 3:25 pm

    I’m sure we haven’t seen the last of Cindy, Mikka

  18. Jill from Western Australia permalink
    July 24, 2009 3:14 am

    Silly question…if the Ant’s received $2million from Lifetime would they be FORCED to pay for KC’s defense???

    If not then I would get really really mad 👿

    Hugs ♥♥♥

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